Yes! You Can EFFORTLESSLY Turn
Your Love Life Around Overnight...
And Easily Change The Way A Man Treats You, Talks To You and Listens To You, Just The Way I Did”
You CAN have the relationship you’ve always wanted, and it’s much easier than you ever dreamed possible. You just need to learn what to say and do to bring him close and make him want to stay… forever.
Hello,
Congratulations for taking the first step to having the relationship that you’ve always wanted.
For deciding that you don’t want to settle with disappointing relationships and feeling unloved, de-prioritized, and unworthy.
For realizing that deeply satisfying, all encompassing, tender, wonderful love is within your reach… if you just knew how to GRAB IT.
And for taking ACTION, by finding me, and CHANGING your relationship. Starting today.
How do I know that you can do it?
How do I know that today can be the start of a brand new relationship between you and your man?
Because I did it.
I turned my on-the-verge-of-a-divorce of a marriage around and transformed it to a now glorious, unshakable,
How I Turned My Nightmare Of A Relationship Into A Glorious Marriage
I’ve been married 19 years – brilliantly, to a wonderful man
But it wasn’t always like that!
In fact, it was pretty horrible for the first five years, and horrible in the same way all my relationships had been. Before I met my husband, it was as if I was wearing a sign on my chest that said “I take crumbs.”
I was the crumb taking queen.
I had so little self-esteem and practically no boundaries at all – the only behavior I knew was to try to control and manipulate everyone and everything in my life – in a very sweet and smiling way.
I attracted losers and men who didn’t want me, but I kept trying to make each of these awful relationships work. It almost seemed that the more difficult a man was, the less he really wanted me, the harder I tried to make him love me.
That is, until I met my husband.
He was different than anyone I had ever met. He saw me for who I really was and he wanted me. As crazy as it sounds now, at first, I didn’t want him. I didn’t recognize him for the diamond he was. I was looking for crumbs, and he was offering me the whole meal!
After a while, I finally got that he was great and handsome and was really ready for the kind of relationship I’d only dreamed about – and instead of sabotaging myself the way I always had, I was able to inspire him to want to marry me.
That should be the end of the fairy tale, right?
It wasn’t.
My real nightmare started shortly after we married.
During what I call “those awful years,” we tried couple’s therapy, and it just made me feel angrier and more helpless. There was no sleep, no sex, I was anxious and miserable all the time.
And then, suddenly, a light went on in my head. Actually, it was as though someone hit me with a brick.
I got that it was me. I was my own problem.
I’d been doing the same things and saying the same things I’d always done and said - things that never, ever worked.
I experimented. I made some small changes in what I said and didn’t say and what I did and didn’t do, and - overnight - the marriage did a 180.
And now we have this phenomenal marriage. It just gets better every day, and it’s given me a real sense of being grounded and strong inside myself.
But I don’t want to keep what I’ve figured out to myself, just for my own benefit. Not when I know there are so many women out there who are struggling and suffering the way I did.
I want to share with YOU the secrets and techniques it took me so long to finally figure out.
But before you learn what to do to bring him close, you need to first understand how you are inadvertently PUSHING HIM AWAY!
3 Ways We Push Love Away Without Realizing It
Most of us say we’d do anything for love, and yet, all our actions and words seem to only push it away.
Every one of us is pushing away love in some way – because we’re all afraid of really getting close to a man and letting him see who we really are. We’re afraid of intimacy.
And we all do it – push love away – in different ways.
In fact, many of us do things we think will bring our man closer, but these behaviors actually drive a wedge between us and him. We don’t even realize we’re pushing him away.
These have become bad habits we fall back on when we’re not feeling good about ourselves or our relationship. We can’t help it. We keep thinking it’s going to work, but it never does.
As a matter of fact, it only makes our situations WORSE.
1) You push love away by talking.
If you’re at all like me, and like most women, talking just comes naturally. Some of us talk so much, we can easily find ourselves never stopping talking, and so we end up never really listening because we always have something to say.
We talk so much sometimes because we’re nervous about what would happen if we stopped talking.
We worry that if we stopped talking, he’d see us as we believe we are – not good enough on the inside.
The truth is, most of us women process our thoughts and feelings verbally. We say what comes to mind and sort of download it all in words.
This can get totally confusing for men. They get lost and frustrated because our talking seems like endless chatter to them.
And then what happens is we spend a lot of time feeling as if we haven’t been heard.
And we haven’t been heard. Not really.
But I can teach you how to express yourself so he is hanging on every word. So he’ll stand up and take notice, and really listen to what you have to say.
You’ll feel more heard than you’ve ever felt, and you’ll be amazed at how little you actually have to say.
2) You push love away by being "spontaneous" instead of being "authentic."
If I were to ask you, as I ask all of the women I work with, to think of words and body language as either magnets to draw in a man, or fists to push him away, what would you tell me?
Would you say that you just want to be yourself and act “natural” and be “spontaneous?”
It would be great if saying whatever comes to mind could make us man magnets - and yet - it just doesn’t work that way.
And it’s not because being “spontaneous” and “natural” isn’t attractive to men - it is!
It’s because what we think of as “spontaneous,” “natural,” and “being ourselves” is most often really only our old nervous patterns (the ones that have never worked) coming up again, over and over.
And these old words and patterns actually keep love away!
Psychologically, all our old words and body language together are our “defense system.” They’re there to defend us against threats and pain - but we use them all the time! We use them from the moment we lay eyes on a man, even before he opens his mouth!
We behave as though we’re in trouble, or not good enough, or about to be hurt - before we even know much at all about the man!
This is where Chemistry comes in.
If the chemistry is strong enough, we’ll sort of sail through the first few months of dating. He won’t pay too much attention to our defenses, even if they irritate him. He’ll pretend to listen while we talk and apologize for misreading our signals.
But then, sooner or later, the chemistry fades a little and the relationship gets real. All our defenses that have kept us from truly connecting with him get even stronger - now we can feel the tension. We can feel the distance between us. We can feel how he’s pulling away.
And we blame him.
And we say - “I should have known he was a jerk.”
And then your friends support the “he’s a jerk” labeling because they don’t know, anymore than you did, how it all really happened.
We women are all willing to say “I’m not pretty enough,” or “I’m not good enough.” We’re willing to put ourselves down for who we are (and really hurt ourselves).
And beating ourselves up doesn’t help. In fact, it lowers our self-confidence, makes us feel angry about men, and makes things worse.
What does help is to really look at ways we can do things differently.
And sometimes, doing things differently takes different relationship skills.
REAL spontaneity and naturalness – the kind that comes from confidence and healthy self-esteem, is authenticity.
And authenticity is very, very attractive to men. Because it communicates CONFIDENCE in ourselves.
But most of the time, our old words and our old patterns actually are telling men, from the moment they talk with us, that we have absolutely NO confidence in ourselves!
That’s why it’s crucial to learn how to let go of those old, destructive defenses and see yourself in a new way.
As you build your confidence so you don’t resort to these knee-jerk defenses that push love away, you’ll see you can draw him closer than you ever imagined.
And I’ll show you how.
3) You push love away by pretending to feel something you don't.
We all have different ways of pushing men away with our old words and body language.
Some of us put up an “I don’t care” kind of attitude. We sort of fold our arms across our chests and dare a man to try to get close. We pretend we don’t care when in fact, we care a lot.
Some of us use humor. We make jokes and act like “one of the boys.” We’re comfortable with friendship, but not romance. But romance is what we’re really needing and craving.
Some of us are just so shy, we sit in the corner and then wonder why we’re not drawing anyone in. We pretend we don’t mind being alone, but in fact loneliness is pouring from every pore of our body.
This conflict between our body language and our words and what we’re really feeling practically screams “I’m insecure!” to a man.
We can fool them for awhile if we’re good actresses, but deep down it makes us feel terrible. We feel like we’re fooling him, and if he ever saw the real us, he’d run.
And then he runs, and we feel certain we were right! We weren’t good enough!
And that isn’t it at all.
We were totally good enough. We were so good he got interested in us just by looking at us. Maybe we were having a good time with our friends and he saw us being “ourselves” and being fun, and he was attracted to us and walked over to talk.
But then, instead of the fun girl he thought we were, he got someone either uptight with “attitude” or nervously laughing and talking too much.
Instead of finding a receptive, attractive woman, he found himself talking with an attractive woman who’s acting more like a man! Someone he might want to be friends with, maybe, and have sex with, maybe, but walk off into the sunset with? No. He’s made up his mind.
Most of us won’t catch on that he’s already made up his mind about us until we’re crying broken hearted 3 or 4 months down the line.
I can help you tell right off the bat what’s really happening in his mind and body.
He’s attracted to you, but he doesn’t feel connected to you.
We women think only women feel “connection.” But men, though they might not know the words to describe it, either feel connected, or they don’t. They don’t go round and round in their heads about it, they just either feel it or they don’t.
Sometimes the physical attraction is so strong for them at the beginning that they overlook the fact that they don’t feel connected. Most of the time, they know they don’t feel connected - but they date us anyway because they’re physically attracted!
And then we mistake this “relationship” we’re now involved in for a real relationship with a future - when, actually, the man knows all along it’s not.
The Tools I Discovered And Developed Saved My Marriage… And They Can Save Your Relationship, Too
Once I realized how I was sabotaging my marriage and putting a barrier to the love I wanted, I was able to develop tools to reverse all the damage and connect me to my husband in ways I never imagined possible.
Not only did the Tools I discovered and developed save my marriage twenty years ago, but they’ve kept it happy ever since.
And that’s when I made it my mission to help other women suffering the way that I suffered, and to give them the tools that would given them the relationship they always wanted.
I became a coach and crisis counselor, and wrote my ebook Have The Relationship You Want.
My eBook is filled with “How-To”, step-by-logical-step Tools and secrets that are instantly usable and will work with the man in your life. As you’re reading and learning - it’s going to be like a light going on in your head (like it was in mine), and you’ll see immediate results with everyone you come in contact with.
You'll Learn:
The 5 Keys to creating a great relationship that you can refer back to again and again to feel more empowered and build a stronger, more bonded relationship.
Why therapy, psychoanalysis, hypnosis and self-help books may help you know yourself better, but may NOT necessarily change your relationship. Learn why you can almost become “addicted” to therapy and yet not improve how your relationship works… and what to do about it (Chapter 4)
How to bring vague desires and hidden dreams into a clear understanding of what you really want out of your “ideal” relationship… and use that knowledge to break down old, destructive habits and negativity and finally have the blissful love you deserve. (Chapter 5)
How to stop fearful, negative thoughts DEAD in their tracks with an easy exercise you can do anywhere (work, in the car, at home). (page 31-32)
Do you often feel like you don’t have a CHOICE when it comes to the difficult moments in life? An amazing Tool for changing the way you look at your life so you never have to feel “out of control” or like you constantly have to change your man. (page 37-40)
The TRUTH about men and what they really want out of love, and the one way they’re actually different from women (it’s not what you think). How to use these facts to do LESS—rather than more— in order to be loved and cherished. (page 43)
What makes a man want to LEAVE a relationship and how to know he’s thinking of leaving. (page 45)
Why getting a man to commit to you takes an important commitment on YOUR part first… Find out what it is and how to make the right space in your life for marriage or a serious commitment. (page 49-51)
What to do and say when he HURTS YOUR FEELINGS so he’ll stop, pay attention and LISTEN to you. (page 54-55)
A Tool for deciding whether or not your husband or boyfriend is worth sticking it out for, or if your problems outweigh the effort of saving the relationship. (page 56-57)
The most important DECISION you will make about what “role” you’re going to take in your relationship. Not making this decision consciously is one of the most common reasons so many relationships are troubled or difficult. (Chapter 9)
What HUGE mistake today’s women are making in relationships that is creating all kinds of problems in their relationships. (page 64)
Are you a go-getting, successful, independent woman? Learn how your personality may actually be pushing him away and how to KEEP yourself authentic while ATTRACTING him to you. (page 68-69)
An easy exercise to create more appreciation—for your man and from him. (page 74-78)
The absolute fastest way to see immediate change in your relationship. (page 80)
The 4 Rules that will change your relationship and eliminate so many of the conflicts you are having with your man, and open the way for happier and more authentic communication. (Chapter 13)
A way to LISTEN that is the complete reverse of how we normally listen… specific techniques that will completely change the way he experiences your relationship overnight. (Chapter 14)
How to tap into your natural “feminine energy” so you feel more relaxed and drive him crazy with devotion and desire for you. (Chapter 15)
A Tool to expressing your feelings in a way that a man will be receptive to. (Chapter 16)
A way to negotiate with a man to get what you want without nagging, pleading or arguing. (page 107-111)
“Overfunctioning”: This is when you are doing it ALL for the relationship—the cooking, the cleaning, the planning, the nurturing, the fixing, the money-making. Learn how to get OUT of this exhausting cycle and get your man to STEP UP and fulfill his masculine role in the relationship (and turn your relationship around at the same time). (Chapter 19)
Why you may keep picking losers and unavailable men, and how to change that pattern once and for all. (page 126)
A Tool to help you become more authentic and in touch with what you’re really feeling… instead of constantly listening to the conflicting thoughts and feelings in your head. (page 128)
A table of specific words to use for the most common situations when talking to a man so you’ll feel more relaxed and he’ll pay attention. (page 139-142)
What to do if FEAR and ANXIETY rule your life and makes it more painful than whatever it is you’re afraid of. (page 151)
You can do it. You can be cherished and adored.
And it can happen quickly.
All you need is new tools, a fresh perspective, and a willingness to try something none of your friends even know about.
That’s exactly what you’ll get when you try my eBook
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